“What is love? Baby don’t hurt me. Don’t hurt me no more.” – Haddaway
Recently, my life has had its share of ups and downs and I’ve been able to relate to Haddaway’s one hit wonder “What is Love?” His chorus pretty much sums up my personal life over the past while. Now I’m not going to sit here and complain about it. Instead, I’m going to use these feelings and realizations to write one heck of a blog post!
Often as humans, we are so consumed with the idea of love that we don’t truly recognize when we actually have it. We worry so much about pleasing the people around us that we sometimes forget to make sure that we are getting as much love in return for the love we are giving. We forget that other forms of love are out there – especially the love we give ourselves.
Love can refer to a variety of different feelings, states and attitudes, ranging from personal affection to pleasure; an emotion of strong attraction and personal attachment; a virtue that represents human kindness and compassion; or compassionate and affectionate actions towards humans, animals or even yourself. Love is unconditional affection with no limits or conditions.
We often show our love to others by doing things for them that will brighten their day and make them happy. But what happens when you get so caught up in loving someone else that you forget to love yourself?
Honestly, I believe that the love you give yourself is the most important. Sure you may find that special someone who shows you love and treats you right, but what happens if they walk away? Then you’re left in pieces on the side of the road feeling like you did something to make them stop loving you. Wrong. You didn’t do anything. Sometimes the love we have for people fades and when that happens, we have to be strong enough to let it go and realize that there are other people in our lives that give us love everyday – our family, friends, pets, and most importantly, ourselves.
Loving yourself is essential to your overall happiness. I may even go as far as saying it’s the root of your happiness. When you truly love yourself, you will be able to accept happiness in all forms. You will realize that receiving love from that special someone is important, but not always necessary. You can stand strong and stand on your own.
I know that it’s not easy to let love go – I’m just figuring that out for myself now. It will take time and small baby steps, but it’s necessary to let it go so you can truly begin to love yourself. And although it feels like you may never love again, over time you’ll be able to slowly let love back in.
“One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: That word is love.” – Sophocles